Monday, May 31, 2010
Sunday, May 30, 2010
To me, the story of how they met is really neat, so I figured, why not share it with the world? (sorry mom, you don't have a problem with a little invasion of privacy, right?) They met at Baker University in Baldwin, KS I think in 1978 or 1979. My mom was an admissions counselor at the college and my dad was the assistant basketball coach and a student there(he was one of those with a 6+ year college plan :) love him!). I cannot remember exactly how they ended up officially meeting, but I do know they have both told me they saw each other prior to their formal introduction and the other one caught they eye. But a long story short, they met, dated, fell in love, families met, love deepened and then my dad drove my mom up to Storm Lake, IA (his home town) and took her to the bank. There he got an engagement ring that he had (yes, from a previous proposal) in a safety deposit box, drove my mom to the side of the lake and while in the car, asked her to marry him. From what my mom and dad have both told us over they years, I feel like the conversation/proposal went a little like this....all speculation of course, since I wasn't even a thought in anyone's mind at the time.
Dad: So I'm going to work at a camp in North Carolina this summer, which you know. And I'd love if you married me and came with me!
Mom: I would love to marry you! The camp thing doesn't sound super fun, but I'll go along for the ride.
Dad: Great! Love you! I'm so lucky.
Mom: Ok, lets get married in 6 weeks, so we can get this show on the road.
And, they did. My mom even moved houses the morning of her wedding (talk about stressful), but they wedding was a success, woman's hats and all! Then they road tripped to North Carolina that summer together, stopping at Tan-Tar-A on the way for a short honeymoon. Half way through the summer, my dad got mad at the owner because she was making him drive a bus full of kids that had faulty brakes, so they left and went back to Kansas. They lived in the boys dorm together as their first place, where there were apparently several nights when the basketball boys came home a little too toasty and were a little too loud that my dad got up in the middle of the night to yell at them and he forgot he wasn't wearing any clothes. Oops! Bet that shut them up really fast. Another kid threatened my dad saying that he was going to tell the dean on him because he knows he has a lady staying there with him because she comes in every Friday with her suitcase and then leaves again on Monday with a suitcase (which would have been my mom, traveling as an admissions rep, living in the dorm parent apartment, with her husband. the dean attended their wedding). Oh the stories could go on and on :)
So sometime in their first 1-2 years of marriage, my dad graduated from college and got offered a job with the YMCA in Victoria, Texas. While he was taking my mom down to see the town where they'd be living if he accepted the job, he tells my mom --- while riding in a small propeller plane --- that he actually DID already accept the job and they would be moving. Needless to say, I think there was a small argument that followed, considering such a big decision was made without her input, but she still moved, quit her job, found a new one, and started a new life in Texas with him. The next few years they spent in Texas, I'm not quite sure exactly the timeline of events, but I know they moved some, but eventually ended up in Houston. My mom got her masters there and worked at the University of Houston and maybe the University of Texas, as Houston, too (sorry if I'm WAY off). My dad also started teaching and worked downtown Houston- in which he did not know how to correctly pronounce any of his Hispanic students named spelled J-E-S-U-S. Now, that's a funny story. Of course in the mean time, family drama on my mom's side took place- which made for some funny stories, they got 2 wiener dogs (duh), Hondo and Sammy, bought a house and after 5 years of marriage and at the age of 29, my mom got pregnant. Yep that is right, with me! We tend to do things 30 years apart. Born 30 years apart (she was 30 when I was born) and get married 30 years apart :)
Does this picture look familiar?? With one dog more? :)
After 2 kids, their traveling around, moving from place to place (and probably overall social life) slowed down...as we stayed in Shawnee until I was in 2nd grade and then we moved to where my parents live now, in a neighboring suburb. Just because their moving locations slowed down, it seemed that life picked up as we were growing up and getting involved in activities, had friends, etc that they were constantly carting us around, coaching us, feeding us, and being just overall wonderful parents. Hopefully I didn't butcher their "love story", as I like to call it, but that's the best my memory serves me.
Now, as someone who is recently married, when you think back to your life as a young kid, I now have SO much respect for my parents and all they did for my sister and I....and really am just amazed they did it all and did it so well in my mind. Right now Jimmy and I are trying to figure out how to run our household together, figure out our budget, get the grass mowed, house cleaned, work out regularly, work full time....AND find time to spend with our family and friends. I'm sure things get "easier" with time, but we even have fights now about stupid stuff and he makes me want to scream on a regular basis- add in 2 young kids, one person getting their masters and coaching, 2 full time jobs...and I can't imagine the arguments, scuffles, and frustration. But you know what, as sure as I am that those went on between them, we never saw it. Yeah, I'm sure we could tell when they were mad at each other, but we never saw them fight in front of us as kids. And doesn't that make you just have more respect for your parents when you are older and can realize how life can get the best of you sometimes and sometimes words just come out, emotions just get the best of you...and you might say things to someone that you don't mean...but they kept it between each other. And worked it out with each other. Because they loved each other enough then to know they could work it out and that it was worth it. A love like that, I strive for in my marriage in the years to come. That no matter how frustrated you get, no matter what the situation presents itself and no matter how mad you might be at that person, you still love them and you take the time and effort to work it out with each other. For you. For your family. For each other. Pretty powerful. But that's what true love is, it's so powerful that I truly believe it can overcome anything.
Then came all the years of us growing up as kids and hating them, hating each other (Lyndsay and I), being teenagers and getting our hearts broken by friends and boyfriends. They stuck with us through it all as parents, and continued to love each other along the way. My dad would buy my mom lavish gifts and she would get mad because he spent too much money (hm, maybe that's where I get it from? haha), but she liked them I know deep down (I know I do!). The little hugs, the support, the sarcasm, the arguments, the eye rolling....I could see it all now as an older kid. It showed me that marriage could be playful and fun, and there will be times you think that person is annoying, but deep down you love them. And then there are the times of sorrow...someone gets sick and has to go into the hospital. The support they give each other, those late nights and many trips to the hospital they make for each other. Medication reminders, reminders to "slow down!!" because you're going to make yourself sick again. Then you have the loss of friends and family, the way they reach out to each other that my sister and I can't see, but we know it's there. Those are just the little things that happened over the course of their long marriage and still occur today.
Since I cannot be with them today and help them celebrate, I want to just honor them and their love for each other these past 30 years, and thank them for such a wonderful example of marriage - the ups and downs - that they have given to me, in which I can draw from during my own marriage. In our wedding, the priest listed off the fabulous examples of long lasting marriages we have in our legacy, which include all our grandparents at 50+ years, his parents at 30+ years and my parents at 30 now...and he is so right, what an amazing legacy. So to my mom and dad on their 30th anniversary, thank you for the example you have given Lyndsay and I, the love and support you have shown us over the years, and mostly, the love and support you have given to each other, your marriage, and our family through rich and poor times, in sickness and in health, for better or worse....all the days of your life.
Saturday, May 29, 2010
- Lingerie shower
- Hopefully some pool/sun time if the rain holds off
- Dinner and drinks with good friends
- Some fun games
- Loving the bachlorette
- Out on Bourbon street!
- FUN, FUN, FUN
Friday, May 28, 2010
However, last night's was too funny---I cannot help but share.
*Lights are out, time for bed*
Jimmy breathes on Brittany.
Brittany starts laughing. Jimmy asks what is so funny.
Brittany: "Your breath. It smells musty"
Jimmy: "What does that mean? That's stupid"
Brittany: "Like when I smell your breath and my eyes are closed, I think to myself: "Am I in an old library of an old mansion with musty books?""
Brittany starts hysterically laughing to herself---UNCONTROLLABLY---and cannot stop thinking about being in a library in the Jumanij house with those kids for some reason. An old musty library. She tells Jimmy about her thoughts.
Jimmy: "What is that? What do you mean Jumanji? Is that another stupid kids book or movie I don't know about, like is it a book?? Like Jungle Book??"
(Emily Mc- you might be the only person that will think this is hilarious. But at work, they were apparently talking about the kid's movie the Jungle Book and Jimmy had never heard of it and kept asking what "book" they were talking about)
Brittany: "No, it's a movie with a weird game and random animals"
Jimmy pouting silently (I imagine he had a pouty lip- but it was dark, so I cannot confirm)
Jimmy: "Well you know what your breath smells like??? Jalapenos and rotten nacho cheese..."
Guess if you cannot be honest with your spouse and tell them what you really think, who can you be that brutal with? :)
5:20AM: Dragged Toby inside so he wouldn't do anything with it. Still wasn't sure what it was, but knew it was a dead animal6:15AM: Breakfast eaten, ready for work, mention to sleeping husband that we have something dead on the ground in our backyard, but for him not to worry because I have it all taken care of. (haha) Only because I know how much he hates rodents and especially ones with tails....long tails....like this one.
6:30AM: I am a woman on a mission. I have rubber gloves in hand and 3 plastic grocery bags
6:32AM: I realize I don't want to actually have to touch the thing @ all. So I get a small shovel
6:33AM: I immediately nix the small shovel idea and go into the garage for a very large shovel
6:34AM: Incessant gagging, vomit noises, deep breaths, closed eyes, peering at the bedroom window seeing if these noises are loud enough to wake Jimmy up and make him feel bad (no luck on that), and moving the shovel around so I can get the large rat on it
6:35AM: Rat is in plastic bag, I carry outside of the fence. Trash day isn't until next Thursday, so not sure what to do with it until then.
6:36AM: Willy figures out what is going on and comes to check it out- too late luckily, but he can still smell it. I will need to hose that all down.
6:38AM: Pack my lunch, make my coffee and off for the day.
7:01AM: Arrive at work, send Jimmy the picture of the rodent via text. He makes gagging sounds (via text). I tell him, he's not allowed to do that since I took care of it. And that I deserve the best wife ever award. He agrees, as he should.
Thursday, May 27, 2010
- Quik Trip 49 cent fountain drinks. yes, you read right. ONLY 49 CENTS. What a deal for a 32 oz drink. Lauren and I love this and when we lived together last summer, this was a regular thing. I saw a sign yesterday that they were back.....a true sign of summer time.
- Wedding season is in full force! If the weekend plans don't actually entail the actual wedding, there is an event leading up to it that we have on our calendar each weekend. Can't wait to see all our wonderful friends tie the knot and be a part of their special day!
Summer wedding line up looks like....
- Erica's bachelorette party in New Orleans...
- Christin and Matt's wedding and Molly's bachelorette party in KC
- Erica and Andrew's wedding in Dallas....and Kristin and Nick's wedding in KC, don't worry we haven't figured out how to be in the same place at the same time...we'll be in Dallas celebrating with the happy couple, but wish Kristin and Nick the absolute best on their wedding day!!!
- Lyssa and Kevin's wedding
SMALL BREAK :)
- Molly and Taylor's wedding!!!!
- And this continues into the fall with Bobby and Hillary's wedding!! YEAH!
- Pools are opening! I can't wait to hit up the pool with friends and maybe even a few lake trips!
- Family reunions and family trips are right around the corner! True family reunion and annual Carter trip are also summer plans :)
Picture from the last family vacation trip to Branson!
- Interns are everywhere!! You know it's summertime when you walk into the cafeteria at work and going through the salad bar and paying takes 10 minutes longer than normal because you have "fresh meat" that aren't used to the cafeteria routine! However, at the same time, I realize how bad I want a summer vacations and I become very envious of my family and friends that work in education or my sister that still has a year of college left!!!
- Planting and maintaining flowers /landscaping is a weekly activity! I planted some of these babies last weekend and can't wait to see them bloom!
- Summer house projects are about to begin now that our full time contractor (my dad) is off work for the summer....so you might be seeing some house posts soon!
Hoping to not have any of these surprises this summer....coming home to this last summer was a bit scary!
- It's HOT....well maybe just for us because again, our AC doesn't work---STILL. Happened last year also, check out a similar blog post in 2009
- Smiles are everywhere :)
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Monday, May 24, 2010
What do you know? We tried to turn on the AC on Saturday when we got back from dinner because the temperature had shot up and it was really hot/humid. Yep, it doesn't work. Just like it didn't 3 times last year, conveniently on the hottest days of the summer. Just like Saturday- the hottest day of 2010 so far in KC and we have no air. And no home warranty to cover our defunct AC.
Not Jimmy's fault, not my fault but our fault. However, because I'm hot, sweating and cranky 24/7 now...I'm betting Jimmy wished he would have just renewed it :)
We shall see how the rest of this story plays out........
Sunday, May 23, 2010
Saturday morning, we woke up after a fun night at the concert and headed out to Deanna Rose Farm for Kenlie's 3rd birthday party! I was really excited because I hadn't been there since I was a kid (it's a petting zoo/really fun stuff place) and Jimmy had never been there in his life- where was he during childhood?! So we headed in the birthday party entrance, with an incredibly large barbie gift bag in hand (Direct quote from Jimmy: "If you would have told me 10 years ago, I would be walking into a petting zoo with a huge barbie bag in my hand, I'd have called you crazy") for the princess themed birthday party!!!!
Each party was in their own stable and there were lots of other parties around too! It was fun to see all of the kids parties :) So after everyone arrived, princess Kenlie put on her party attire :)
How cute is she?
I had to get one with her adorable matching shoes! However, it was a little bit muddy, so the dress didn't last long :)
Our neighbor had a large itch that he couldn't seem to reach...
Dress off, presents opened, cake eaten...happiness for the birthday girl!
It was quite the princess themed spread! Shellie made a cake around snow white and it was SOO good! Then she had the cutest red velvet cupcakes with red icing and a stick pretzel in the top and icing leaf to symbolize the apple in Snow White!
Carter family at the party!
Kenlie was in the charge for the day....so she got to go where she wanted to! Took this picture while we were wandering around!
Then older sister Libbie joined in :)
Next up was the petting zoo---Maren did not like the goats! I have to admit they were a little scary because it seemed like they wanted to eat your hand!
Norah apparently did not mind them!
Me with the siblings of the birthday girl! The sun was a little too bright for Ben when uncle Jimmy snapped this one!
Next up: Pony rides!! Maren on the horse!! She rode it a couple times!
Ben looked very handsome on his! Jimmy said he had the "best form"
Norah was stuck in her stroller with us while her sister and parents were riding the pony. Needless to say, she was not happy about it and wanted to join in the fun.
Libbie leading the way on her pony
Finally, Norah was back in her element with the goats and she got to feed them this time- with her dad's help!
Uncle Jimmy manning the wagon. Waving bye to the goats!
And the birthday girl :) Very happy with her cheesy chips and satisfied with the day, I'm sure!
Final picture when we were walking out---a bank for Ben!!
What a fun/exhausting morning! But it was so great to hang out with all the kids....everyone had a blast, including the adults!
Later that day, Jimmy and I did yard work (he mowed---I replanted all the flowers in the front flower beds) and then we were off to dinner with all the Carter boys and their wives to Cafe Trio right off the plaza for our quarterly dinner/night out. It was delicious and then we headed to the Levee to listed to some music and hang out. Overall, a fun weekend with the Carter family!
The show kicked off right at 8, with no opening acts. And it was WONDERFUL. Just a great concert that proved you don't really NEED all the thrills and frills that artists do these days and that people will come if you have talent and they want to hear you sing. It was a full crowd (sold out) and all they did was stand on the stage and sing with the band. No dancers, no anything. And it was awesome. Can I say that one more time?? Even more astounding is how neither of them (James or Carole) are by definition "young" anymore, but they did amazing and their voice and talent have withstood many years!
The circle stage set up at the Sprint Center. Had never seen it like this before but it was a rotating stage and it was awesome!
James just hanging out. He was hilarious when he talked to the crowd!
James and Carole during their last song (2nd encore) which they sang together. So good!
Jimmy and I at our seats!
The whole Carter clan that joined in the fun!!
Thanks to Jimmy's parents for inviting us, it was so much fun! I did not think I knew any Carole King songs, but I did and Jimmy's dad was funny and pointed it out to me that I "should know" this one or that one. And she was the one that wrote the song that played in the hair color commercials---you make me feel like a natural woman........ :)
Friday, May 21, 2010
In the fridge there were:
- no eggs (I usually eat those)
- minimal milk (had to make the decision, do I want it in my coffee or cereal....UH coffee)
So I had to get creative. Pancakes...because I cannot go without breakfast. Trust me, you don't want to experience that. Since I made enough batter for 2 people, I figured....doesn't my wonderful husband deserve some pancakes this morning? So I made some for him and left them downstairs, intending on him to eat them before he left for work. But then I realized they would be cold. That just couldn't happen. Then I remembered the new nightstand in our new furniture set came with this tray for breakfast in bed/working in bed. SOLD. So Jimmy got a full tray of breakfast delivered to him...a little earlier than he probably wanted, but he didn't complain :) It was fun to do something nice for him...sometimes I don't think I tell him enough how much I appreciate him and everything he does.
The spread he got.
After he consumed it.
He insisted no pictures of him eating it. I obliged :) So happy Friday and hope your last day of the work week is your version of a "breakfast in bed" kind of day!
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Anyways, we had 2 graduates in our family/friends this weekend and of course the ceremonies were at the same time! My cousin Wil graduated from Park Hill high school (yeah Wil!!!) and one of Jimmy's best friend's (hence, my friend too), Dan graduated from pharmacy school......as a doctor. PhD. How does that make you feel?? Makes me feel not as cool because I don't have 3 letters (or 2...MD, JD) after my name!! But to help him celebrate, Jimmy, Danny (Dr. Dan's cousin and Jimmy's other best friend), and I made the trip up to Lawrence on Sunday early afternoon to see him walk down the hill with his class in the famous KU tradition and have a few drinks with him at the Wheel to kick off his life as a PhD in style!
First off, we had to leave a little early to arrive at our favorite eatery in Lawrence that brought back good, old memories of Jimmy and I going there every Sunday when I was getting ready to head back to Manhattan for their 35 cent wings and fried pickles. So of course, we got our "usual". Danny K joined us as well, as he is a big wing fan. And I finally figured out why I LOVE their wings so much (after being deprived from them for so long and trying to find a place in KC that compares). It's because they have so much meat on them! YUM!
Danny K and Jim at the table. Besties.
Then we were headed off to the Wheel for a beer or two and ran into a few other friends that had just recently graduated from Law school! WOW...things I kept thinking about all day- 1) We have smart friends and 2) Are we really old enough to have friends that are doctors/lawyers/pharmacists, etc.? Holy cow! After they had a beer and I had my usual DC and dominated the nudie photo hunt machine (yes in the middle of the day I was playing it- don't judge, I only got the 2nd highest score and I was bummed), it was off to the hill to watch the graduates!
Now I have been aware and informed of this tradition KU has of walking down the hill, as Jimmy did it 2 years ago, but I had never actually witnessed it because I was in charge of preparing for the graduation party during Jimmy's graduation. But it was really neat! Everyone from every college in the university- including med school that is in KC- walks down the hill to the stadium. Luckily, Pharmacy students were first to walk down, so we met up with Dr. Dan's family, watched him walk down, cheered him on and took a few pictures and then it was back to the Wheel to save spots for everyone coming there after!!
Some stupid picture Jimmy snapped of Danny K and I on the hill when I gave him the camera because I was too short to get any pictures of Dr. Dan!
At the table at the Wheel just hanging out!
Then we headed back to KC with a full car and dropped Dr. Dan off at his house...and were graciously invited in to eat some food his parents made in honor of him. And it was delicious!
Thanks Dr. Dan for letting us share in your day and all your accomplishments :) We are so proud of you!!!!!